Friday, October 8, 2010
I have been sitting on this particular blog for awhile, trying to decide whether to bring it up, ask the question and discuss the idea. I do not know why I hesitated but from my experience in blogging over the past month and a half I feel more comfortable now.
Let me set the scene:
My daughter is enrolled in a local baby gym. We love it there. She does arts and crafts, general play and takes a gymnastics class there (yes, she is 16 months old in a gymnastics class! Never too early to create the next Dominique Dawes I say!). On occasion, the gym also has parties and events for all members and we went to one particular one. While there a nanny approached me to ask whether I would be interested in speaking with her particular child's mother. Sure, I responded. At that point, I met Ms. F. Ms. F let me know that she wanted play dates galore for her little one and would I be interested. She then mentioned that it was important for her to have play dates that were multicultural because she wanted her daughter to know children of other cultures. To get straight to the point, I was the only black parent there and my daughter was the only black child so immediately I giggled... Affirmative Action Play Dates! I gave her my information and realized after that she reached out to a few other people too but mostly children who had diverse backgrounds only.
But see... I was not offended or annoyed. I did not think she was using my child. It seemed she genuinely cared about exposing her children to different cultures and I could not scoff at that notion - wasn't I doing the same? I did not join the baby gym with the PRIMARY intent of meeting children of other races but it was absolutely apart of it. Before I entered high school I was only surrounded with black America children and people. Upon entering high school I was bombarded with different cultures when I attended the fifth largest high school in the country. From my view there is such a richness in going to the baby gym where parents and nannies are speaking French and Spanish to their children. Different cultures, races and thought.
I mentioned this to some other friends and some found this to be inappropriate and annoying...
So I ask you collective for your thoughts - would you be annoyed??